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There is no specific advice on how to use your body language. What you do might be interpreted in several ways, depending on the setting and who you are talking to. You¡¯ll probably want to use your body language differently when talking to your boss compared to when you talk to a girl/guy you¡¯re interested in. These are some common interpretations of body language and often more effective ways to communicate with your body.ÆäʵÈçºÎʹÓÃÖ«ÌåÓïÑÔ²¢Ã»ÓÐʲôÃ÷È·µÄ½¨Òé¡£±Ï¾¹£¬Ëæ×Å»·¾³ºÍ˵»°¶ÔÏóµÄ²»Í¬£¬ÄãµÄÖ«ÌåÓïÑÔÒ²»á²úÉú²»Í¬µÄÀí½â¡£ºÍ×Ô¼ºÀϰåÓÖ»òÊÇϲ»¶µÄÅ®Éú/ÄÐÉúÁÄÌìʱ£¬ÄãµÄÖ«ÌåÓïÑÔµ±È»»á²»Ò»ÑùÀ²¡£ÏÂÃæÊǶÔÖ«ÌåÓïÑÔµÄÒ»°ãÀí½â£¬ÄÜÈÃÄãºÍ×Ô¼ºµÄÉíÌå¸üºÃµÄе÷¹µÍ¨Å¶¡£
First, to change your body language you must be aware of your body language. Notice how you sit, how you stand, how you use you hands and legs, what you do while talking to someone.Ê×ÏÈ£¬Òª¸Ä±ä×Ô¼ºµÄÖ«ÌåÓïÑÔ£¬Äã±ØÐëÏÈÒªÒâʶµ½Ëü¡£×¢ÒâÒ»ÏÂ×Ô¼ºµÄ×ø×˺ÍÕ¾×Ë¡¢ÊÖÊÆºÍÍȵ͝×÷£¬ÒÔ¼°ºÍ±ðÈË˵»°Ê±Äã¶¼»áÔõô±íÏÖ¡£
You might want to practice in front of a mirror. Yeah, it might seem silly but no one is watching you. This will give you good feedback on how you look to other people and give you an opportunity to practise a bit before going out into the world.Ò²ÐíÄã»áÏëÔÚ¾µ×ÓÇ°ÃæÁ·Ï°Á·Ï°£¬ËƺõÓеãɵ£¬µ«Ã»ÈË»áÖªµÀµÄ£¬ÅÂɶѽ¡£ÕâÖÖÁ·Ï°»á¸øÄã·´À¡£¬¸æËßÄãÄãÔÚ±ðÈËÑÛÖеÄÓ¡Ïó£¬Ò²ËãÊÇÈÃÄã½øÈëÏÖʵÊÀ½ç֮ǰ£¬¸ø×Ô¼ºÒ»¸öÁ·Ï°µÄ»ú»á¡£
Another tip is to close your eyes and visualize how you would stand and sit to feel confident, open and relaxed or whatever you want to communicate. See yourself move like that version of yourself. Then try it out.»¹ÓÐÒ»µã£¬Äã¿ÉÒÔ±ÕÉÏÑÛ¾¦ÏëÏóÒ»ÏÂÈçºÎÈÃ×Ô¼ºµÄÕ¾×˺Í×ø×Ë¿´ÆðÀ´¸ü×ÔÐÅ¡¢´ó·½ÒÔ¼°·ÅËÉ£¬ÔÙÏëÏëÄãÏë½»Á÷µÄ¶«Î÷¡£ÓÃÅÔ¹ÛÕßµÄÑÛ¹âÀ´ÆÀ¼Û×Ô¼º£¬È»ºó¾Í´óµ¨µÄ±íÏÖ³öÀ´°É¡£
You might also want observe friends, role models, movie stars or other people you think has good body language. Observe what they do and you don¡¯t. Take bits and pieces you like from different people. Try using what you can learn from them.ÄãÒ²¿ÉÄÜ»áÏë½è¼øÅóÓÑÃÇ£¬Ä£ÌØ£¬µçÓ°Ã÷ÐÇ»òÆäËû¾ÙÖ¹ÓÅÑŵÄÈËÃǵÄÐÐΪϰ¹ß¡£¿´¿´ËûÃÇÓÐʲôºÃµÄ¾ÙÖ¹£¬Ä㻹ȱÄÄЩ¡£´Ó²»Í¬µÄÈËÉíÉÏÂýÂýѧ£¬È»ºó°Ñѧµ½µÄÓÃÔÚ×Ô¼ºÉíÉϰɡ£
1. Don¡¯t cross your arms or legs ²»Òª½»²æÊÖ±Û»òÍÈ
You have probably already heard you shouldn¡¯t cross your arms as it might make you seem defensive or guarded. This goes for your legs too. Keep your arms and legs open.ÄãÓ¦¸ÃÌý¹ý²»Òª½»²æÊÖ±Û£¬ÕâÑù»áÈÃÄã¿´ÆðÀ´´¦ÓÚ·À±¸×´Ì¬ÇÒ¾ßÓй¥»÷ÐÔ¡£ÍÈ×îºÃÒ²²»Òª½»²æÆðÀ´Å¶£¬ÈÃÊÖ±ÛºÍÍÈ×ÔÈ»µã°É¡£
2. Have eye contact, but don¡¯t stare ÑÛÉñ½»Á÷ºÜ±ØÒª£¬µ«±ð¶¢×űðÈË¿´
If there are several people you are talking to, give them all some eye contact to create a better connection and see if they are listening. Keeping too much eye-contact might creep people out. Giving no eye-contact might make you seem insecure. If you are not used to keeping eye-contact it might feel a little hard or scary in the beginning but keep working on it and you¡¯ll get used to it.Èç¹ûÄãͬʱºÍºÃ¼¸¸öÈË˵»°£¬²»Ê±µØ¸øËûÃÇһЩÑÛÉñ½»Á÷ÓÐÖúÓÚ½»¼Ê£¬Ò²ÄÜÖªÏþËûÃÇÊÇ·ñÔÚÇãÌý¡£È»¶ø¹ý¶àµÄÑÛÉñ½»Á÷Ò²Ðí»á°ÑÈËÏÅÅÜŶ¡£ÍêÈ«²»¸øÑÛÉñ½»Á÷»áÈñðÈ˾õµÃÄãÕâ¸öÈ˶ã¶ãÉÁÉÁ²»¿ÉÐÅ¡£Èç¹ûÄã¾õµÃÑÛÉñ½»Á÷ºÜÀ§ÄÑÒÖ»ò»áº¦Å£¬Ò²Òª¿Ë·þһϣ¬²»¾ÃÄã¾Í»áϰ¹ßÀ²¡£
3. Don¡¯t be afraid to take up some space ¶àÈ¥Õ¼ÓÃһЩ¿Õ¼ä
Taking up space by for example sitting or standing with your legs apart a bit signals self-confidence and that you are comfortable in your own skin.±ÈÈçÁ½ÍÈ·Ö¿ªµÄ×ø×Å»òÕ¾×ÅÄÜÔöÌí×ÔÐÅ£¬»¹ÄÜ͸¶Äã¶Ô×Ô¼ºµÄ״̬¸Ðµ½ºÜÊæ·þŶ¡£
4. Relax your shoulders ·ÅËɼç°ò
When you feel tense it¡¯s easily winds up as tension in your shoulders. They might move up and forward a bit. Try to relax. Try to loosen up by shaking the shoulders a bit and move them back slightly. ¸Ðµ½½ôÕŵÄʱºò×ÜÊDz»×Ô¾õµØÊÕ½ô¼ç°ò£¬ÓÚÊǼç°ò¾Í»áÏòÉÏÇÒÏòǰÇã¡£ÊÔ×Å·ÅËÉ£¬°Ú¶¯Ò»Ï¼ç°ò£¬°Ñ¼ç°òÓÐÒâʶµÄºóÇãµã°É¡£
5. Nod when they are talking ÇãÌýʱ±ðÍüÁ˵ãÍ·
Nod once in a while to signal that you are listening. But don¡¯t overdo it and peck like Woody Woodpecker.ʱ²»Ê±µãÍ·ÊÇÄãÔÚÇãÌýµÄÐźš£µ«Ç§Íò±ð¹ýÍ·ÁË£¬°Ñ×Ô¼º±ä³É³É×ÄľÄñÎéµÏÁËŶ¡£
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7. Lean, but not too much б¿¿×Å£¬±ðÌ«¹ý
If you want to show that you are interested in what someone is saying, lean toward the person talking. If you want to show that you¡¯re confident in yourself and relaxed lean back a bit. But don¡¯t lean in too much or you might seem needy and desperate for some approval. Or lean back too much or you might seem arrogant and distant.Èç¹ûÄãÏë±íÏÖ¶Ô±ðÈË˵µÄ»°¸ÐÐËȤ£¬¾ÍÉÔ΢Ïò˵»°µÄÄǸöÈËÇãбһµã¡£Èç¹ûÄãÏë±íÏÖµÄÊÇ×ÔÐÅ£¬ÄǾÍÉÔ΢ÍùºóÑöÒ»µã°É¡£µ«Ò²±ðÌ«¹ýͷŶ£¬Ì«¿¿½ü»áÈÃÄã¿´ÆðÀ´¼±Óڵõ½±ðÈ˵ÄÈϿɣ¬ÍùºóÑöµÄÌ«¹ý»áÈÃÄãÓоàÀë¸Ð¡£
8. Smile and laugh΢ЦºÍ´óЦ
Lighten up, don¡¯t take yourself too seriously. Relax a bit, smile and laugh when someone says something funny. People will be a lot more inclined to listen to you if you seem to be a positive person. But don¡¯t be the first to laugh at your own jokes, it makes you seem nervous and needy. Smile when you are introduced to someone but don¡¯t keep a smile plastered on your face, you¡¯ll seem insincere.ЦÆðÀ´£¬±ð°åןöÁ³À²¡£·ÅËɵ㣬±ðÈË˵ºÃÍæµÄÊÂÇéµÄʱºò²»·Á΢Ц»ò´óЦ¡£Èç¹ûÄãÊǸöÑô¹âµÄÈË£¬ÈËÃÇÒ²»á¸üÀÖÒâÓëÄã½»Á÷Ŷ¡£µ«×Ô¼ºµÄЦ»°£¬Ç§Íò±ðµÚÒ»¸öЦ£¬ÕâÑùÖ»»áÈÃÄã¿´ÆðÀ´ÓÖ½ôÕÅÓÖìþìý¡£µ±ÅóÓѰÑÄã½éÉܸøÐµÄÈËÈÏʶʱ£¬Ê±¿ÉÒÔÁ³ÉÏ´øÎ¢Ð¦£¬µ«Ò²±ðһֱЦ£¬·ñÔò»á¿´ÆðÀ´²»Õæ³Ï¡£
9. Don¡¯t touch your face ±ðÃþÁ³
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10. Keep your head up ±ðµÍÍ·
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11. Slow down a bit ÂýÒ»µã
This goes for many things. Walking slower not only makes you seem more calm and confident, it will also make you feel less stressed. If someone addresses you, don¡¯t snap your neck in their direction, turn it a bit more slowly instead. ºÜ¶àʶ¼ÐèÒªÂýÒ»µã¡£×ßÂýµã£¬Äã²»½öÄܸüÕò¶¨ºÍ×ÔÐÅ£¬»¹ÄÜÈÃ×Ô¼º¼õÉÙѹÁ¦¸Ð¡£Èç¹ûÓÐÈ˺°Ä㣬±ðÁ¢ÂíÉì×Ų±×ÓÈ¥»ØÓ¦£¬ÂýÂýµÄ»ØÍ··´¶ø»á¸üºÃŶ¡£
12. Don¡¯t fidget and try to avoid, phase out or transform fidgety movement and nervous ticks such as shaking your leg or tapping your fingers against the table rapidly. ±ð×øÁ¢²»°²£¬Ò²±ð²»¶ÏµØ»»×ËÊÆ£¬»òÊÇͨ¹ý¶¶ÍÈ»ò²»Ê±ÓÃÊÖÖ¸Çôò×À×ÓÀ´´«´ï×Ô¼ºµÄ½ôÕÅ¡£
You¡¯ll seem nervous and fidgeting can be a distracting when you try to get something across. Declutter your movements if you are all over the place. Try to relax, slow down and focus your movements. Ïë¿Ë·þʲôÀ§ÄÑ£¬×øÁ¢²»°²Ö»»áÈÃÄã·ÖÐĺͽôÕÅ¡£ÎÈס×Ô¼º£¬·ÅËÉ£¬ÂýÏÂÀ´£¬×¨ÐÄ×Ô¼ºµÄÐж¯°É¡£
13. Use your hands more confidently instead of fidgeting with your hands and scratching your face use them to communicate what you are trying to say. ÔÚ±í´ï¹Ûµãʱ£¬±ðÔÙÈÃÊÖÎÞ´¦°²·ÅÀ²£¬×ÔÐŵ㣬Ҳ±ð×ÜÔÚÁÄÌìµÄʱºòÍæÊÖÖ¸»òÊÇÄÓÁ³Å¶¡£
Use your hands to describe something or to add weight to a point you are trying to make. But don¡¯t use them to much or it might become distracting. And don¡¯t let your hands flail around.²»·ÁÓÃÊֱȻ®±È»®À´¼ÓÉîÄãµÄ¹Ûµã±í´ï¡£µ«Ò²±ðÌ«¹ýÁË£¬·ñÔò»á·ÖÉ¢±ðÈ˵Ä×¢ÒâÁ¦¡£Ò²±ð°ÑÊÖÒ»Ö±´¹ÔÚÄDZߡ£
14. Lower your drink. 許ၵ굋
Don¡¯t hold your drink in front of your chest. In fact, don¡¯t hold anything in front of your heart as it will make you seem guarded and distant. Lower it and hold it beside your leg instead.±ð×ܰÑË®±·ÅÔÚÐØÇ°¡£Êµ¼ÊÉϱð°ÑÈκζ«Î÷·ÅÔÚÐØÇ°£¬ÕâÖ»»áÈÃÄã¿´ÆðÀ´Ê®·Ö·À·¶Íâ¼ÓÓоàÀë¸Ð¡£·ÅµÍµã£¬²»Èç·ÅÔÚÍȱ߰ɡ£
15. Realise where you spine ends ֱͦ¼¹×µ
Many people (including me until recently) might sit or stand with a straight back in a good posture. However, they might think that the spine ends where the neck begins and therefore crane the neck forward in a Montgomery Burns-pose. Your spine ends in the back of your head. Keep you whole spine straight and aligned for better posture. ºÜ¶àÈË£¨°üÀ¨ÎÒ×Ô¼º£©Ò²Ðí¶¼»áÒ»Ö±°Ñ±³Í¦Ö±µÄÕ¾×Å×ø×Å¡£Ò²ÐíÓÐЩÈ˾õµÃ¼¹×µÄ©¶ËÊÇÔÚ²±×ÓÄÇ£¬Òò´ËÍùÍù»áÍùǰÉì²±×Ó£¬µ«Æäʵ¼¹×µµÄÄ©¶ËÊÇÔÚºóÄÔÉ×Õâ±ß¡£ËùÒÔֱͦ¼¹×µ£¬ÈÃ×Ô¼º¿´ÆðÀ´¸ü¾«Éñ°É¡£
16. Don¡¯t stand too close ±ðÕ¾µÄÌ«½ü
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17. Mirror Ä£·Â
Often when you get along with a person, when the two of you get a good connection, you will start to mirror each other unconsciously. That means that you mirror the other person¡¯s body language a bit. To make the connection better you can try a bit of proactive mirroring. If he leans forward, you might lean forward. If she holds her hands on her thighs, you might do the same. But don¡¯t react instantly and don¡¯t mirror every change in body language. Then weirdness will ensue. ÍùÍùÄãºÍ±ðÈË¿ªÊ¼½Ó´¥£¬Èç¹û¹ØÏµ²»´í£¬Äã¾Í»á²»×Ô¾õµØ¿ªÊ¼Ä£·ÂËý£¬Ò²¾ÍÊÇ»ò¶à»òÉÙЧ·Â±ðÈ˵ÄÖ«ÌåÓïÑÔ¡£Èç¹û¹ØÏµÔÙÇ×Ãܵ㣬Äã¿ÉÒÔ¸üÖ÷¶¯µã£¬È˼ÒÏòǰÇ㣬ÄãÒ²¿ÉÒÔÏòǰÇã¡£Èç¹ûËý°ÑÊÖ·ÅÔÚ´óÍÈÉÏ£¬ÄÇÄãÒ²ÕâÑùºÃÁË£¬Ö»ÊDZðÄ£·ÂµÄ̫Ƶ·±¡£
18. Keep a good attitude ̬¶ÈºÃ
Last but not least, keep a positive, open and relaxed attitude. How you feel will come through in your body language and can make a major difference. ×îÖØÒªµÄÊÇ£¬Ì¬¶ÈÒª»ý¼«¡¢´ó·½ºÍ·ÅËÉ¡£ÄãµÄ¸ÐÊÜ»áͨ¹ýÖ«ÌåÓïÑÔ´«´ï³öÀ´£¬»á²úÉúºÜ´óµÄÓ°Ïì¡£
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